Hi Guys!
So nice to see the sunshine out there and know that warm temps are just a matter of weeks away, c’mon beach days! I am soooo counting down!
I was at a hair appointment the other day and got into a fun conversation with the woman in the next chair. (I know– barbershops and hair salons– there seems to be a theme here lately! What can I say, we are a well-coiffed family this month! ) She is a happily married woman whose husband told her on their first date 11 years ago that he was absolutely NOT looking for a relationship. Apparently, that has no bearing on things when you meet your Person!! She has a few close friends who are single, and naturally the topic of speed dating and dating came up and then led to the horror stories of dating… and one of her friends has been through several bad chapters lately!
The funniest one though, led me to pull out the ole iPhone once again and type it into my notes so I wouldn’t forget to share it with you all! Which leads me to today’s topic! Sometimes you have a good, even great first date… or two or three.. but then… boom. The dealbreaker. It comes from nowhere. It can be totally unexpected and big enough to outweigh all the good conversation and lovely dinners you’ve shared thus far. It erases any thought you’ve had of potential future relationship with this person, and makes you want to grab those running shoes and hit the pavement.
In this case– it was rather unique! – she learned that the guy– I’m not kidding– among other strange traits, keeps his phone books in the freezer, because it makes it easier to turn the pages. Ooookay then! Seriously, you just can’t make this stuff up!
I think there are more typical dealbreakers out there… lack of chemistry… no skills at kissing… 
….. things you learn about someone as you spend more and more time together, such as personal habits, what their home environment is like in general, how they parent, how they are when they travel, whether they snore like a chainsaw, or curse like a sailor, or explode with road rage… all details that it simply takes time to learn about.
But the more unique ones– phone books in the freezer! Strange pets running rampant… odd and bizarre and funny and so strange that you have to laugh about it, or you’d cry… and you wonder where the hidden camera is…. c’mon, these dealbreakers…..it’s time to share! Please send me your dealbreakers… Can’t wait to read them! Do it now! (Please?) You know you have one.
Enjoy the sunshine! Now get typing!
Warmly,
Susie Cupid
11 comments
Vivian says:
April 18, 2011 at 3:26 pm (UTC -7)
On my first date with someone, not long after we sat down, he pulled from his wallet, his “Captain Crunch” membership and fan club card, and strangely enough in a proud way, admitted to the fact that he wakes up every nite around 2:00am and raids the kitchen for this sugar fix, it was then, I should have said, “and, heeeeeere’s your sign”,.( Did I mention, I’m a health nut, lol)
Jason says:
April 18, 2011 at 6:02 pm (UTC -7)
Once I took a girl out for a 2nd date. I thought she was pretty cool. Until I drove her home and I wasn’t invited in because her exboyfriend hadn’t exactly moved out yet. Yes, dealbreaker!
Kari says:
April 19, 2011 at 1:20 pm (UTC -7)
I had a pretty good first date with Mr X. I would’ve had a second one but then I was driving home from date one and he called me to say he had a good time. Which was ok, but then he called again first thing the next morning. Then he called 4 more times that day! Sunday he called again! By Sunday night and several phone calls later I had to tell him we were never having date two! The over-dialing dealbreaker!
Jessica says:
April 19, 2011 at 1:39 pm (UTC -7)
Someone invited me over to cook me dinner once. It was the 3rd date I think. I thought maybe he was Mr. Right. His dog growled ferociously when I got there, and he told me not to worry. But, then it bit me and we spent the rest of the date at the hospital. Now I only date guys with cats and fish.
John says:
April 19, 2011 at 2:53 pm (UTC -7)
DEAL BREAKER
Recently after my divorce was final I decided to get back into the game again, dating that is. I ran into a very pleasant blonde hair blue eyed lady three or four times over a couple weeks at the grocery, at a restaurant, at the bank and finally at happy hour. We spoke and had a great time and decided to meet that Saturday for a bottle of wine, delivery Italian and a DVD.
Saturday came and all seem well until my Date was getting dropped off at my house, silly me to assume a 30 something lady didn’t drive(Dealbreaker). As she was getting out off the car I noticed a little white dog in her lap in a little doggy caring purse/bag??, she did not hand the dog back to the driver, (DealBreaker). Then she went to the back hatch and pulled out a overnight bag that I could go on vacation a week with.(DealBreaker).
Right then I knew things must have changed a little since I was in the dating pool. But I knew before I even said hello that I could only hope to say Good-Bye!
Anthony says:
April 19, 2011 at 4:55 pm (UTC -7)
DealBreaker: At least for me, when I’m out with someone and the person suddenly decides to pull out a cell phone and text like a maniac for the next half hour. I realize that this is the “information age’ but texting/cell phone calls (espicially when first dating the person) should be sidelined while on a date unless there is an emergency.
Ted says:
April 20, 2011 at 4:24 pm (UTC -7)
I met someone online and we made a date to meet for dinner.
I had seen alot of pictures and she seemed cute and youthful.
When we met, she didn’t even resemble her picture. I think she posted photos of her daughter. I could in no way recognize her. She looked at least a dozen years older than me, and aside from her looks, the fact that she just misrepresented herself in such a dishonest way was a total dealbreaker.
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